Friday, January 22, 2010

A great start on my career

Hello everyone it have been a great start on my career. First I just wont to say I through i could not do this by going back to school. I told my academic advising that I do not think that I cannot do this because it was so hard at first before I sign up for school I have not been to school for 30 years that was a very long time. And the reason way because I had my children at a very early ages and I had to make sure they was taking care of. But I did went back to school about three time never complete anything because something will always come up. Now my children is grow up , and years later my life start feeling like something was missing, So I start asking myself some question , you always taking care everyone else what you wont for yourself in life I told myself you always wont to go back to school. I have been sick for 6 years now I feel a lot better so now it is a good time to go back to school so I got online and I sign up for school. I remember when I had my first class I was so nervous, remember I had not been to school in 30 years thing are much different now then when I was going to school. Thing have change but I kept at it and I am so proud of myself because I been doing so good in school. I made it for the first year, and now this is my last year. I always told my children you can do anything if you put your mind to it and that just what I did. I just won't to say to you all it been so good having you all for classmate and good luck.

Friday, January 15, 2010

Teenages acting out

Why do some teenage act out, first I feel like I need to do this blog because I have a teenage grandchild who is acting out special in school and also at home. My son have two girls one is 16 years old and the other is 13 years old the one who is 16 years old is an A, 4.0 student and she is also a cheerleader she is a very good child she do not cause any problems at all. In the other hand the other one who is 13 years old is a bad problem, she was making good grade in school an A.40 to an D's and f's student she was playing basketball she got kick off the team. she just got suspended from school she say bad things to her mother but not her father which is my son. Her mother and father is not together anymore first I through that was the reason why she was acting out like this but we all found out that she is having sex and we all know that can cause you to have behavior problems. She come home with spotes on her neck I also had a talk with her to tell her about when I was a teenage I have made a mistake of loving someone and how I may a big mistake I got a baby and I do not won't that for her. I can remember when I was a teenage I through I knew everything know one could not tell me anything.I won,t to ask you a question why do some parents alway saying that just their hormones, and why when you are a teenages you take so many risk. I know I did when I was A teenage I have four children they was petty good children they all finsh school and went to college thank god for that. I thank that kids can get around other kids can cause a problems if that kid have a bad behavior. My son told me the talk I had with my grand children it did no good she kids have to learn the hard way. I am going to keep praying for her holping she will grow out of this behavior.

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Teen Pregnancy

First I just want you to let you know I was a teenage mother. i got pregnant at 15 years old. Yes it was not very smart, but I did take the responsibility for been a teenage parent. my boyfriend and I got marriage that was not a very good thing to do. But back in those day if you did not get marriage you was a bad person I remember when I first got pregnant my friend mothers stop them from been with me they say I was a bad person to be with. Back in the time I came up we could not go to day school we only could go to night school, so I complete school at night. Now they have high school learning center, for teen mother, where they can finsh high school these school also have daycare, someone to take care of your children while you are in class. You can also take time between classes to be with your child I also found out that center have parenting classes for you. when I first had my child they did not have a center to learn you how to be a parenting I had to learn that on my on but I was a good mother I have four children and i raise my children by myself and I did a good job they all finsh school , and college . I am going to ask you a question, while do some peoples think that it is just low-income children is having children it is also high-income children having children because their patient never around also. But it is so hard when you a teen mother, bringing up a baby it is so much hard work to do like changing baby dappies, getting up in the middle on the night, and bathing them.If I have to stare all over again I will waite until I finsh school. My mother was very strict back in theose days I came up know parents will not talk about sex to ther children my mother told me if you kiss a boy you will get pregnant. And I belived that for a very long time, and my mother also say you should not have sex until you get marriage. The best advice I can give a teenage just waite until you get you career.

Monday, December 28, 2009

How can a person be a better parents and a better step parents

The reason why I wont't to do this topic is because my grand children's and some of my friends children,s having this problem with their parent and step parent. I know with my step father I did not like him at all because he did not show any love for my mother children, my mother had 6, children before she got with him and he do not have any children. Maybe that why he did not know how to show use any love he was a very cold man we did not like him at all he was a very lizzy man he did not like to work at all but my mother love him so much we could not understand why she love him like that.But the problem I had with my mother she act like it was not a problem if he did not love her children or not just as long as he show her love . We all had a problem with that because when you have children and you meet a man if he wont to be with you he after to love my children also. That just the way I feel about been with a man. My grand children was the same way with their stepmother my son got marriage twice the first time he had two boys before he got with her. And when he got marriage to her she did not like his boys at all and she show it to and he never did anything about it, so one of his kid ran away from home and start been around trouble kids and start doing the wrong thing it cause him to go to jail and he stay in jail for two years. that was not good.The next time he got marriage he have two girls, and she also had two children and that did not work at at all the children's did not like each other so it was all ways something. I went online to ask a question if you where a parents/Step-parents what would you do. One parent say she have a problem with the step- daughters Mom is always send notes withes her telling us what to do like we have never taken care of a kid before. She say they have a younger child and they are only 6 months apart so we know what we are doing.What you thank about that answer I thank some parents just want to be in control all the time. That just something that I thank, what do you thank I so thank that some parents and some step parents need to stop be so selfish, I thank so step-parents need to stop trying so hard to get the children to like them just be yourself that will help a lot. And remember treat people the way you wont to be treated

Monday, December 21, 2009

Why do some children won't to be bully to other children in school

First I won,t to start off by saying I keep to Young children in my home, I have being keeping them for a very long time. When one was just 3 month old, and the other one was 2 month old one is a girl and the other one is a boy. The boy name is Chad and the girl name is Chase they ages now Chad is 5 years old and Chase is 3 years old. Chad is in pare,k this is his first year in school and he is having problem with one of the kid in his class his name is Cole,he is the bully in Chad class. Chad come home everyday saying that Cole hit him in his stomach I ask Chad do you tell your teacher and Chad, say yes I told my teacher but Cole, still hit me any way Chad mother have talk to Chad, teacher about Cole and the teacher have talk to Cole parents. But Cole still hit Chad everyday and Cole also hit the other children also. It might be wrong but I told Chad to hit Cole back I told Chad you got to defended yourself from other children like Cole because if you do not hit them back they will content to hit you. I remember when I was a little girl I was in the 6 grade and this girl stay back for 2 years in the same grade and she was a lot older then the rest of the children and she was a bully and she will pick on all of the children in the class room. And I will tell my mother and my mother will talk to the teacher and the teacher will talk to her about hit on the children and that will not do any good so my mother told me to hit her back and that what I did so she stop hited me so I hope that will help Chad.I also remember when my daughter was a little girl she was not in school she was at home in our neighborhood, it was bullet hit on her and they was a lot old and bigger then my daughter. And I told her the same thing, I won't to ask you all a question, how would you handed that problem if you have a child in school that where being bully by another child. I did some research on it athere are some of the things I find out. In some children behavior come from there home because children look at parents as a role model. I give you my answer on this question but I am going to ask you how do you tell your children to deal with bullying/getting picked on in school. This is another question what can you do if your child is a bullying others children. If you wont more information on this subject go to bullyfreeworld.com

Friday, December 11, 2009

Celebrity

I do not know how to start this blog so I am just going to start I won't to do this blog because what have been all over television, new paper and on computer every time you turn the television on these days we here about some kind of celebrity scandal.
just like Tiger Woods, why do they think that it is so important for people to know about celebrity personal life. I would think that we are human beings just like all of use we all make mistakes, I would think so.I went around and ask some of my friends and family and this is some of their responds, some say most children are looking from some kind of role model, like most young girls when they are watching television they see an actresses or singers they say I wont to be just like her and they pick someone to be a role model they are not looking at their personal life. I have heard by some of my friends and some of my family, for some type of role model the most positive and influential roll model who put her or his money where there mouth are, admits when they make a mistake, faults and tell and people what you have done,I wont to ask you a question,why do people think celebritys make a good role model, but some celebritys are good roll model. But why you just cannot believe in yourself I think if you believe in yourself and have faith in god you do not need a roll model.But I am just spearking for myself I have never had a role model, but thats just myself. But I cannot speak for everyone some people just won't to be like someone else I do not understand why some of our children need a role model , their are a lot of good people out there. I also think that you should focus on yourself and you will not need a role model and have more faith in god you cannot go wrong.

Friday, December 4, 2009

Domestic Violent

I can relate to my early childhood ages, when my father was an alcohlic. But first I would like to share something with you about my father, my father was an amry man he fought in ( World War 11) and when he came back from the war he became an none violent alcohlic. And when he got married to my mother two years later he became an violent alcohlic, one thing I can say about my father he always had a job but he will never support his family because of his illness for alchol. I remember when I was about 7 years old my father was drunk everyday When he came from work he will stop by the bar and run a tab up thats why he will never have any money because when friday came he would have to paid his tab up. And when he would come home he would start an augurement with my mother, and it would lead into an domestic violents he will abuse my mother around all of her children. But one thing I can say he was never an abuseing father to his children just with my mother me and my sisters and brothers was so affaird I use to tell my sisters and brothers I cannot wait until I grow up to leave this house.I remember when my sister and I use to sit on the edge of the bed and we would promise each other we will never marry a man like my father was and we stick to that promise today. Back in those days they did not have help for women for domestic violents I
use to feel so sorry for my mother she work so hard to take care 6 children.And would have to paid all of the bills and by food to feed all of us when you are a young child it is hard to grew up in a violent household.My mother will stay in the marriage for her children, about 14 years later she had enough she finally lelf and that was the best thing she could have done.